Monday, November 19, 2007
I am bored.
Frankly speaking, if I had something to do, I wouldn't be blogging. I don't mean this in a bad way, but seriously... It's getting a little too boring at work.
Not that I am arrogant, but I think that blogging about my life can be pretty draining sometimes... I am okay with people reading about my life, but let's face it - All of us has little secrets in us that we do not want to publish for the whole world to see. Only God knows my little secrets and as far as I know, I am not ready to let these secrets go yet.
That is why when sometimes, some of my friends would ask me why I did not put up posts, it's because of this very reason. If I had very close friends, I would probably share my secrets with them, but there are only very few people who are close to me. Perhaps, just one or two. Of course, it takes a lot of trust to reveal what's in me. That's why my blog has always been empty, empty and empty. So empty.
I don't like to say that I am being pessimistic about things. I am not, just that I choose not to tell. Sometimes, I think talking/ blogging is a very draining thing to do. Once what you hold dear to you gets leaked out, some other people would pass it on to other people. And that's what I find really draining. People whom I trust leak out my dearest, dearest secrets out of their mouth carelessly. I dislike this. I hate this. It's been a long time since I have been truthful in my blog. But at least, I have got nothing to hide now. I am just simply saying what I truly feel about people out there.
It could also be because I am a complex person, and the way I think is just so... very confusing, complicated and contradicting. I like to look at things at many perspectives, but these so many perspectives always bring about chaos in my head. In other words, my mind is just like a mental battlefield.
I remember I did this personality test a few months ago... It is so true! Whatever it describes about me is just so true. I think if I had not changed to be more open about my feelings, I wouldn't be able to put up such a post, because people would think I am just being arrogant and all. But now, I am putting up this post for the sake of explaining why my blog is so outdated - almost all the time. Many a times, because I tried to protect other's feelings, I end up getting hurt myself. And I hate fear. I hate people to get angry at me, because I would fear, even when sometimes the fault doesn't lie with me. I want to protect people around me, that's for sure, but sometimes I don't do it properly.
Well, here's the report.
ISFJ Personality Type
ISFJs direct their energy towards the inner world of thoughts and emotions. They try to clarify ideas and information, particularly when it relates to people and important relationships. They are quiet, serious observers of people, and are often both conscientious and loyal.
What makes an ISFJ tick?
The Dominant function is the perceptive one of Sensing. Characteristics associated with this function include:
-Likes looking at information in terms of facts and details
-Focuses more on the here and now rather than possibilities for the future
-Feels comfortable in areas of proven experience
-Takes a realistic approach
-The perceptive Sensing function is introverted. That is, Sensing is used primarily to govern the inner world of thoughts and emotions. The ISFJ will therefore:
-Seek to develop a realistic understanding of the world as it is, in the light of what he/she observes
-Be pragmatic in nature, constantly learning to adapt to the world as it is now
Observe in a subjective way, selecting and relating facts that others would not, and seeing those facts more in terms of impressions and significance than pure fact
The Sensing function is primarily supported by extraverted Feeling judgement, That is, Feeling judgement is used primarily to manage the outer world of actions and spoken words. This will modify the way that the Sensing is directed, by:
- focusing the (inner world) Sensing on ideas and possibilities that relate to people
- expressing appreciation for the contributions of others, particularly where they have done or said something that the ISFJ sees as significant
- making decisions on the basis of values that support the ISFJ's understanding of the world
- reinforcing the subjectivity of observation
- The classic temperament of an ISFJ is Epimethean, or Melancholic, for whom a basic driving force is duty, service and the need to belong.
Contributions to the team of an ISFJ
In a team environment, the ISFJ can contribute by:
- working hard and efficiently to complete tasks by the deadlines set
- building team spirit through maintaining good relationships with each team member, being accepting of their contributions, and promoting harmony and co-operation
- contributing practical skills in organising people
- ensuring that everyone in the team feels valued, and that their needs are met
- asking for contributions from all team members, and seeking to arrive at consensus decisions
- maintaining respect for established hierarchies and traditions
- striving to ensure that people are happy with the service provided
The potential ways in which an ISFJ can irritate others include:
- avoiding conflict, and not giving criticism when it is needed
- not articulating his/her understanding of the situation
- not seeing the wood for the trees
- failing to state his/her own needs
- being too serious
- not promoting his/her own ideas or achievements
Personal GrowthAs with all types, the ISFJ can achieve personal growth by developing all functions that are not fully developed, through actions such as:
- articulating more of the ISFJ's own views
- developing a long term vision, that avoids focusing on details
- assertiveness training
- being more forthright, and offering direct criticism
- learning to promote the ISFJ's ideas and achievements to others, recognising that others may - well find them valuable
- undertaking a formal process of evaluation against criteria, including a cost benefit analysis
Recognising Stress
As stress increases, 'learned behaviour' tends to give way to the natural style, so the ISFJ will behave more according to type when under greater stress. For example, in a crisis, the ISFJ might:
- find a place of solitude in which to think and work
- value the efforts of others and appreciate their encouragement
- use tried and trusted means of solving problems, possibly failing to recognise the need for change
- use pragmatic solutions at the expense of the long term
Under extreme stress, fatigue or illness, the ISFJ's shadow may appear - a negative form of ENTP. Example characteristics are:
- being very intolerant of others who do not act competently
- suggesting impractical ideas
- being critical of others, and finding fault with almost everything
- having a gloomy view of the future
- being argumentative
The shadow is part of the unconscious that is often visible to others, onto whom the shadow is projected. The ISFJ may therefore readily see these faults in others without recognising it in him/her self.
Extracted from: http://www.teamtechnology.co.uk/myers-briggs/isfj.htm
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